Many people connect Jezebel spirit doctrines to the secular concept of narcissism and that any one that is thought to be a narcissist must be demonic. It is not that cut and dry.
The first thing that many well meaning intercessors mess about the discussion is the “spirit of Jezebel” is a spiritual problem but being a narcissist is actually a social and mental health problems. It is something connected to the brain itself, not a spirit at all.
According to Pyschology Today,
The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding.
The problem with it is most people have some degree of this in their lives. At what point does it make it a disorder and where does it become something we need to seek help.
While it is easy for us to point at someone in the church or family and say, “You narcissist ,” the truth is more likely along the lines of “we narcissists.” After all, we need to remove the telephone pole from our eyes before looking for a speak in others.
It is worth noting that people that are really narcissistic don’t just snap in and out of it. It is not an alter ego they have or a persona. If they have it as a persona, they are not really someone that is a Narcissist.
What makes us so broken?
Well, that would be the fall and the introduction to sin in this world. As a result, we are born into this broken state of humanity.
As we look at some of things that makes a person clinically a Narcassist, I see them in about every person I know. It is just not to the degree that it is a disorder or needs treatment. In other words, we all struggle with these things daily within reason.
I do not think I know one single person that does not have some type of ” exaggerated sense of self-importance.” We believe that we are more important in many cases than we really are. It is just the nature of human in a broken state to believe this. It is pride but sin makes up operate from pride.
Many people are also, “be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate.” We have mastered this in our churches by emphasizing prosperity, leadership and forcing down people’s throat the need for marriage. It leaves many have fantasies of prosperity, ministry leadership and have that trophy wife.
I have seen many people in the church that “take advantage of others to get what they want.” They might do it to get a position in the assembly or be part of a team such as altar ministry. I have seen this go to extremes where people are destroying each other for their position in the church leadership. Some elections at the national level look nothing short of a general election for the US Presidency, mud slinging and all.
It is also true that many believe do not have the willingness (they do have the ability in the Holy Spirit) to feel or understanding the pain of others. This is mainly because they can’t act like they do (manipulating for positions) if they feel the hurt of the people they step on.
At the end of the day, we all see some form of these behavior in our own lives.
4 degrees of Narcasisism
Wherever this is fruit, there will also be a root that produces it. What is the root of it all? It is more than just saying, “Eve eat the apple.” The original sin comes in many shades.
Many believers have theses challenges because they operate from a position of insecurity. In today’s society, it is common for young people to have a struggle for assurance of who they are and as a result, they are not stable in faith.
Shame runs wild in the churches of America. People are taught shame should be expected and part of life. They live with guilt from this and that failure. It is rare that people come into the understanding that shame is just a sick twist to the spirit of fear.
As the insecurity happens with the shame and guilt compounding into the mix, the reality of
vulnerability becomes a bigger and bigger issue. The shame paralyze us to find the enemy that comes to make us vulnerable to the lies of hell.
The ultimate goal of narcissism is humiliation. The presence of shame and guilt to run so deep that it comes a disgrace and humiliates us. What began is insecurity is not the venue to demonic humiliation.
Seek out godly help, please
The main difference between someone who has this common struggle and a person who has clinical Narcissistic Personality Disorder is accountability. It went unchecked for a long enough period that it is hard to correct.
If a believer has struggle with the shame and guilt that leads to self-destructive behavior, reach out to someone that can get you help. Find people that can assist in getting you to someone with experience to set you free.
The main thing is to catch these things before they become to the point that be clinical Narcissistic Personality Disorder is even on the table.
While it is a legit mental disorder, it is not something that the presence of the Holy Spirit can break you free from. Have more faith in the power of Jesus Christ than you do in your problem. As you do this, you will find the freedom God has provided.